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Best Friends “Forever”
At some point in everyone’s life they have a BFF. BFF stands for Best Friends Forever. In some cases the forever is a real thing, people stay friend through out their whole lives. In my case, forever only lasted a few years. Our friendship taught me what it really means to be a true friend and how one little thing can change everything forever. I choose to analyze my friendship with Sarah because it showed me how to be a true friend and how your whole world can change in just a short amount of time. Throughout this paper, I will explain my friendship with Sarah according to Knapp’s 10 stages of relationship development. Next, I will suggest to reasonable recommendations for communication improvement for our friendship. Then, I will reflect on our friendship, telling what I learned about Sarah, what I learned about myself, and how I will use these relationship development stages in further friendships. Part 1: Case Analysis

My friendship with Sarah went along with all of Knapp’s stages, from beginning to end. She was the new girl at school; we became best friends over her first few weeks at Heber, and remained friends until the fall of our senior year. The first stage of Knapp’s relationship development is the initiating stage, when two people “meet and interact for the first time” (Floyd, 2011, p. 188). Sarah and I met on her first day at Heber Springs High School. I was the person who showed her where all of her classes were. We were able to talk about so much within the first few minutes of meeting. We had so much in common. She fit right in with my friend Hannah and I, it was like she had been with us since Kindergarten. We quickly moved into the initiating stage of our friendship and moved right into the experimenting stage.

The experimenting stage involves “conversations to learn more about the other person” (Floyd, 2011, p. 188). Sarah and I did everything together. We were inseparable. She told me about all of her friends from back in Fayetteville, and I introduced her to new people from Heber. We learned each other’s likes and dislikes. For example, I learned that Sarah ate the same thing for lunch everyday since Kindergarten. She ate a peanut butter sandwich, BBQ chips, and some kind of desert, usually brownies, and a bottle of water. I was the complete opposite I ate something different everyday. All of these conversations helped us get to know each other better, which led to the third stage called the intensifying stage.

During the intensifying stage, “people move from being acquaintances to being close friends” (Floyd, 2011, p. 188). I realized that Sarah and I were becoming super close the day my boyfriend broke up with me. I was upset and all I wanted to do was sit and cry. She canceled her plans that afternoon to just sit with me and allow me to cry. I could not believe she had canceled her plans with her other friends just to make sure I was okay. This moment stands out to me because dropping her plans showed how much our friendship meant to her, and from there we moved into the integrating stage.

The fourth stage is the integrating stage in which the “relationship has its own identity” (Floyd, 2011, p. 188). Sarah and I seriously spent all of our time together. It got to the point where people recognized us as a single unit. We were the same person. When telling people what I did over the weekend, I started referring to myself as “we” instead of “I”, because we did whatever it was together. When spending time together, we would post about it on twitter with the hash tag, #Besties. This allowed us to transition into the bonding stage smoothly.

In the bonding stage, people make a “public announcement of their commitment to each other” (Floyd, 2011, pp, 188-189). Before this point in our friendship, Sarah had always talked about her friendships from back in Fayetteville. One day we went to a Razorback game together and when she introduced me to all of...